How to get more love in your life right now!

More Love: Tao Te Ching verse 5 week 7 Saturday Morning Mastermind

One simple technique you can use to get more love flowing into your life starting today.

In chapter 5 of Change your thoughts, change your life, Verse 5 of the Tao Te Ching teaches us that impartiality is the key to unlocking a never ending flow of abundance in every aspect of your life including more love.

The Tao Gives and gives without end, it is available in all its abundance to everyone and everything

The Tao does not give to some and withhold from others. It tells us if we want to tap into that abundance WE need to give impartially too.

When we discriminate, we close ourselves off from the Tao and all its abundance. We then also experience the same level of withholding as we withhold from others.

If you aren’t receiving as much love as you want, it’s because you aren’t giving out love impartially. You’re putting limits on your love. You’re only allowing yourself to love in certain ways, with certain people, in certain situations. You are basically ‘hoarding’ your love.

Wayne reminds us that when we hoard something, we experiences shortages ourselves.

~ Wayne Dyer

How I was keeping myself from receiving more love

In my own life I realized I wasn’t giving love to my husband impartially. I was withholding my love in certain situations because he was acting, or doing, or being something that I didn’t like. (like not hang up the dog’s leash, or snoring loud, or interrupting me while I was concentrating on something)

I would withdraw from him emotionally or even allow myself to be mad. I wasn’t allowing myself to love him impartially; in every way, all the time, no matter what. I was ‘hoarding’ or ‘blocking’ my love based on what I was expecting him to behave like.

Even though we have a pretty good relationship, we still experience discord between us in certain situations because of expectations I had that I didn’t feel were getting met.

Because of these expectations, (We talked in depth about expectations week 4 here) I was setting myself up for disappointment. When I was disappointed, I would withhold or ‘block’ my love.

We all do this in one way or another. We stop ourselves from giving more love to someone because we want something from them first. But, verse 5 tells us that the Tao gives impartially AND it even goes on to say that the more it is used, the more it produces!

It’s an unlimited resource available to everyone in every way.   

We are the ones who block it from flowing freely in our lives, because WE create conditions for when we will allow it to flow!

To receive more love freely, we must give more love impartially – without conditions.

But how do you do that?

In the book A course in miracles there are many passages that talk about how we are ‘one’ with our brothers. (in other words, we are one with all of God’s creations, or the world of the 10,000 things) It says, when we love our ‘brothers’, we love ourselves. When we give to our brothers, we give to ourselves. When we attack our brothers, we attack ourselves. When we hoard or withhold from our brothers, we withhold from ourselves.

In this chapter, Wayne reminds us to ‘see yourself in everyone

When you realize that ‘we are one’ and you ‘see yourself in everyone and everything’ then treating everyone impartially in every situation becomes easier.

One way to give more love so you can receive more love

A couple weeks ago Katherine Clement and I were talking about how we each can be a positive ripple of change in the world. One thing she shared with me was a little ritual she does to send out love and healing energy to the world.

She says simple statements like these as she goes through her days.

“As I feed myself, I feed the world”
“As I nourish myself, I nourish the world”
“As I give to myself, I give to the world”

After I read chapter 5 of ‘Change your thoughts, Change your life’ and I internalized the 5th verse of the Tao, I realized all the areas of my life where I was withholding love, friendship, money, my time, etc…

It dawned on me that I could use simple statements like theses to change how I was interacting with my husband and stop withholding my love from him.

Because I want to receive more love, I Switched them around a bit

Here’s what I came up with…

“As I give love to my husband, I give love to myself”

I also realized I could use this technique in all areas of my life with statements like these…

“As I give love to my children, I give love to myself”
“As I give unconditional love to my coworkers, I give unconditional love to myself”
“As I give unconditional love to the person driving the car next to me, I give unconditional love to myself”

At the end of Chapter 5 Wayne tells us to ask for guidance before every interaction we have with other people.

If you want more love in your life, I suggest that you go into every interaction with people and use these kind statements.

“As I give more love to this person, I give more love to myself”

What do you think? Please share in the comment section below.


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This is week 7 of our Saturday Morning Mastermind study of “Change your thoughts Change your life” by Wayne Dyer

Read Chapter 5 – Living Impartially

Then Meet us here for a LIVE discussion January 30th at 10am EST


Read the verse and chapter 5 of Change Your Thoughts, Change your life then tell us what you think the Tao Te Ching is trying to teach us about getting more love in your life.

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Tell us what YOU think.

Here’s some questions to get you started.

  1. What do you think the Tao is trying to tell us in this verse?
  2. Can you see areas of your life where you are withholding from others? If so, how?
  3. Do you believe you can receive more love if you simply give more love impartially?


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  • Helena Kelton

    Love this! It is so true what you are discuss. Plz look at at the film Cowspiracy and I would love if you could have a hangout and discuss and debate about that one, it is very right on and truth and important education that everyone should have! And so lovely with Kareem´s bird. I love animals and I have a dog have had a horse, a lots of animal and I rase them to be free, no cages. Im avegetarian and into all for the ones with no voice that cannot defend themself, and an activist in animal rights. <3 <3 <3 <3

    "Be The Love You Want To See In The World"


    #noharmtoanimals #farmsanctuary #mercyforanimals #noabuse #Loveandcompassion

    • Thanks Helena,
      I’m glad you found our discussion enjoyable!
      I’ve not seen the Conspiracy movie.
      I’ll have to check it out!

  • I just rewatched the mastermind and came across what you said Katherine 12 minutes into the show. You were talking about becoming too immersed in one aspect or another of personal development or positive thinking etc. I realize that is exactly what I was doing.
    I’ve been so immersed in all these books, meditation, changing my thoughts, my way of life, etc that I didn’t think I’d be able to be happy if my life was going in any other direction!
    I’ve been afraid that living my life in any other way would make me miserable.

    But you’re right, we have to find a balance. If I cut myself off from the all other possibilities, sure I may be able to continue being happy this way, but I would miss out on so many other experiences!

    I was just reminded of one of my all time favorite songs “I LIVED” by One Republic.
    The main theme of the song is basically living your life on fire, taking chances, going on adventures, etc.
    After learning the lessons from this verse and hearing everyone’s thoughts about it I realize now that I was holding myself back from the next adventure in my life.

    I’m not gunna fricken do that!! I’m now ready for this adventure and I am so thankful for all of you for helping me on my personal growth journey!!

    Here is the song if you haven’t listened recently!!

  • Jason Roberts

    Wow, really terrific thoughts on the 5th verse Samantha! So well put and organized! I think you definitely have something there. Nice use of self talk to bring yourself into alignment. I think we may also keep from being frustrated with initial outcomes in relation to our giving if we realize that the the abundance we receive in kind may not always be that which we are looking for or even come from the person or place we expect it. It maybe not what we expect however then “it is ours to transform” and be give openly back out to the world again with our special touch. Everything we do has an affect. Sometimes we seem to miss the bigger picture. However I like to think that through genuine transparency and the right type of communication we can coax the abundance we seek from areas of life we wish when we are freely/openly giving and receiving without prejudice.

    • Amen Jason!
      Thanks for coming back and sharing your thoughts on how abundance flows into our lives and we don’t even see it because it isn’t showing up just how we think it should.
      That can be a real eye opener!

    • Donna Allen

      Yes to that Jason,
      it was great reminder to be kind to our one and only “Self’. I always found it better to deal with an issue openly and honestly. You can let go of your hurt and anger, the person has the chance to improve themselves, and your relationship becomes stronger. In life & Business.

  • Karen Lohof

    Hi, again. I apologize. I haven’t meant to be rude. Today and last week I’ve been taken away. I was hearing lots of cutting out earlier, freezing frames. All is good now. So much good stuff, here. Thank you!
    And, thanks, Katherine, for letting me know you would have liked reading last week’s comment. So nice!

  • Sandy Root

    Good morning, phoooweeee with my internet connection, Lol… so as I was saying, when I read the first paragraph, I immediately thought of Neville Goddard, as I’ve been immersed in his reading for months. His work is largely around manifesting what you desire into your life. He states that God (creator, universe, whatever you like to call it) doesn’t discriminate, doesn’t give more to someone over another, it’s all inside of us, we receive based on our own imaginings.

    And what I got out of this chapter is that the Tao is basically saying the same thing, not just in manifesting, but in all aspects, we are essentially the same, in no one is better or worse than another person… what is is based on our actions, thoughts, beliefs, imaginings, etc. For me, the “straw dog” analogy wasn’t demeaning, but a way to say we are the same, all sacred, all able to give and receive the same. Therefore we can’t judge others, or make ourselves or someone more “special” than another.

    • Donna Allen

      So would it be fair to say we see in part? This was a good verse, yet was deep and as I saw it applied to the heart of the earth! We are in this thing together. No way are we any special than anyone one else.

  • Karen Lohof

    Mornin’, mornin’. Glad to be hear. Hope to hear someone soon.

  • Good Morning!!! 🙂

  • Good morning everyone!

  • Love the insights you got Samantha! I too got a strong lesson in this subject recently. Relationships really point them out to us! LOL The recent breakup revealed so many things to me but the biggest was how much I withhold Love from myself and others at times and how quickly I turn on myself and others when I am hurting. Hurt people, Hurt people. It is so easy to start telling ourselves lies about these things and even easier to believe them. Truth be told, my misery over the breakup was being caused by my thoughts about it, all the what ifs, should haves etc. Once I put those thoughts to Inquiry, I found them all to be lies which shifted the emotion immediately. I don’t always understand things but this is what I know…everything is PERFECT just the way it happens. Samantha you got a good lesson in that this morning LOL I may not understand it but I know that if something gets taken away from me, it’s only to make room for something even better! I learned a lot this time around and it will definitely serve me in the future. I think this is one of the things this verse speaks to…Stay Balanced and just keep Loving! Yes, I absolutely believe that we receive more love as we learn to give it without conditions. Expectations can be so insidious! We don’t even realise we have them or that we are putting conditions on love but we do. It’s the way our society works! Everything is based on an exchange or performance and if you don’t measure up you fail a grade are fired or divorced etc. It’s no wonder we have difficulty loving without conditions! But the most overused cliche is True! You can’t Love someone else if you don’t Love yourself, You can’t give what you don’t have…however you want to word it. We must learn to Love ourselves, regardless of what we can or can’t do, provide for, execute, live up to, are ashamed of, regret, shoulda or coulda done, we must forgive ourselves and Love ourselves even more. It seems that most people I know have been brought to their knees at some point in their lives, sometimes more than once. The experience may come in a multitude of forms but the core lesson is about learning to Love ourselves more. Learning to stop abusing ourselves, how to be kind and treasure our own gifts, how to tell ourselves the things that we always wanted to hear from someone else and treat ourselves the way that we always wanted someone else to treat us. Until we can accept ourselves unconditionally we will always put conditions on others because we will judge them the same way we judge ourselves. We’re One, we can’t help it. Thankfully it works with Love too, the more Love we give ourselves, the more we can give to others and the more we can receive <3 This 5th verse reminds us that the space between Heaven and Earth is like a bellows, empty and inexhaustable, the more it is used the more it produces. The Universe is Abundant with everything! It is only our resistance, lack of integrity (mostly lying to ourselves) and non-serving beliefs that block us from the flow. Fortunately through study like this and self-inquiry we now see this and can make better choices going forward. Life is simply a series of choices, one after another…we get LOTS of practice and opportunities to make them from our heart rather than from our hurt <3 As Wayne reminds us, the Abundance of Love (Peace and Prosperity) that we seek are not things we acquire, they are frequencies we tune in to by changing our vibration. Tune in to Unconditional Love and Abundance and watch what happens!

    • Thanks Katherine!
      Relationships are such a great teacher!!
      It amazes me everyday when some issue between myself and my husband shows me something I need to learn in order to go further on my journey of personal growth.

      Sometimes these lessons are hard learned through arguments and frustrations, but this verse and my interactions with my husband this week have opened my eyes to 3 really big lessons!

      I look forward to chatting about these things and what everyone else has learned this week too!